- Is there a formula for success
Everyone strives to live better. Rather, he wants to. He wants to achieve more, experience more joy and satisfaction from life. Say " seeks " - means to recognize that each person makes his own efforts for this. Alas, this is not so. The normal and natural feeling of dissatisfaction ...Читать дальше →
- The art of living in the present
The happiest person is the one who always remains in the present. (P. Coelho)
Appreciate the well-known " here and now " rule.
- Rule " enjoy the present " in the language of psychology means: " enjoy the ice cream that lies on your plate ", and lies here and now.
- H...Читать дальше →
- Typology of Broken Family Relationships
L. N. Tolstoy wrote that all happy families are alike, each unhappy is unhappy in its own way. But misfortunes have their own patterns, which could have been avoided if we had known about them beforehand.
Let's visit a small family vernissage. Perhaps, it will seem to you that in some examples the...Читать дальше →
- Why do spouses get divorced?
The first thing that comes to mind when a person tries to answer the question of why conflicts arise in a family is treason. However, this factor is most significant in 2 out of 10 divorcing families that failed to resolve the family conflict.
Everyone who cheated on himself, and to whom they cheat...Читать дальше →
- Lord, what is it: a man under 30, and he through the word - " mom " yes " mom "! Here such a cry of the soul rang out once in my office. And this soul had its dwelling place rather solid body of my patient, a strong crotch of about 25 years old, blond, chubby and ruddy, a yo...Читать дальше →
- Family Conflicts involving Children
Is a person always aware of why he needs a child. Why do we need children at all, it seems clear to everyone: that the human race does not stop. But why each of us? After all, not everyone has children. And those who allow themselves this, firstly, have either 1 child, or 10; and secondly, they...Читать дальше →
- We and our parents: inherited conflicts
A blank label or a programmed computer?
In the XVIII century. it was generally accepted that a child is born devoid of all characteristic signs that his intellectual abilities are no different from those of all newly born children. The psyche of the child was called tabula rasa - a blank tablet. ...Читать дальше →
- Family without father
A mother cannot be a father, but she, for the benefit of a child, can sculpt a stable image of a father
I am always deeply impressed by the degree of understanding of the problem that women express when they talk about raising a child without a father. This is true not only for divorced women, but ...Читать дальше →
- How to get along with grandmothers
Not so long ago I received a letter of the following content:
" ... The first sprouts of resentment and irritation sprouted in me during pregnancy, when my mother-in-law often repeated: " I only hope that the baby will look like my son " or " I hope he is as smart as his dad &qu...Читать дальше →
- Manipulator moms
... My mother never scandals, to be honest. But she will immediately fall into bed. Cramping. Heart attack. If you tell her that I am going to marry Cheris, she will immediately have convulsions: it always starts with her when she is upset. Then cousin Henrietta will send for this damn Dr. Palf...Читать дальше →
- Mom got married
Comparing the tales of different nations, you never cease to be surprised at the similarity of many stories. For example, the story of a poor stepdaughter plagued by a malicious stepmother is told by storytellers in all parts of the world. A classic example is the tale of Cinderella, known to ever...Читать дальше →
- Mother and daughter: who is who?
There is no such a spacious kitchen in which two women would not be crowded. A rare family can refute this saying. If several generations live under one roof, it is almost inevitable that there will be disagreement between relatives over the most seemingly trifling everyday issues. The warm and t...Читать дальше →
- Is love blind
" See? He just doesn't love me anymore! He only does that criticizes me ", complained the pretty Yvonne. She and her husband John came to me for a consultation in the last hope of saving their marriage. Yvonne asked her husband: " Can you say something good about me? &Quot; To my...Читать дальше →
- Childbirth with her husband
At the beginning of our century, the Viennese psychiatrist, who was yet to become a luminary of world science, thoughtfully said: " Anatomy is fate! &Quot; In these words, the founder of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, put a deep meaning. He believed that belonging to one sex or another, expre...Читать дальше →
- Who is the head in this house?
The English writer G.K. Chesterton aptly remarked: " Children do not like to obey their parents, but willingly imitate them ". The older we get, the more often we notice that we repeat the words heard in childhood from mom and dad, and generally look at the world, largely guided by their ...Читать дальше →
- All happy families are alike
It is said that one of the students of Socrates, when he was about to get married, asked the teacher if he had made the right decision. And he received the answer: - Do as you know. Anyway, then you'll regret it.
It seems that reality confirms the words of the sage. Today, like millennia ago, mar...Читать дальше →
- Psychology of communication. Psychological Aikido: Depreciation Principle
The principle of depreciation is based on the laws of inertia, which are characteristic not only of physical bodies, but also of biological systems. To pay it off, we apply depreciation, not always realizing it. And since we are not aware, then we do not always use it. We use physical depreciatio...Читать дальше →
- Time is money. Paradoxes of the classical formula.
The Finnish writer Martti Larni, ironic over the way of life of Americans, wrote: " It’s not customary to waddle along New York streets. Here, all the passers-by are in a hurry to catch somewhere, not forgetting for a minute that time is money. It seems, however, that most of them have much m...Читать дальше →
- Fulfillment of desires - mysticism or the art of systematic thinking?
Why do desires come true? Or rather, why do some desires come true, others do not? And where is that magic spell that promotes « the realization of dreams »?
From early childhood I asked myself these questions, like any romantic girl who believes in miracles. However, the first answer...Читать дальше →
- Remedy for scandals
This article will discuss how to stop, stop scandals and quarrels. Let's turn to folk wisdom. There is such a fable ...
Once upon a time there lived an old man with an old woman. They had no children. They live like a cat with a dog: not just every day, but every hour, then dust to the ceiling. ...Читать дальше →
- How to fool yourself
We all support sustained positive self-esteem. It does not depend on how our life really developed. Professors, workers, janitors, prisoners, sentenced to long terms of imprisonment, patients with alcoholism and drug addiction - all tend to evaluate themselves positively. This was first proved by...Читать дальше →
- About lovers of a "healthy" lifestyle
One summer, I was on an expedition where our laboratory assistant Zhanna, a well-fed little girl of the age when women begin to forget about him, turned to me:
- Tell me, please, how do you feel about separate nutrition?
I have a bad attitude to separate nutrition - primarily because I do not see th...Читать дальше →
- The order in the house and in the head
One Bulgarian fairy tale tells of an old man who planned to marry his son - but certainly a neat and hardworking girl. Once, having loaded the cart with the fruits of his garden, he went to a neighboring village and began to shout to everyone, surprisingly: - I’m changing fresh fruits for garbage! ...Читать дальше →
- What does the mirror reflect?
German writer Wolfgang Menzel remarked: " One mirror is more important than a number of portraits ". From time immemorial, galleries of portraits of famous ancestors adorned only the houses of aristocrats. However, mirrors at all times were very expensive and were not found in every hous...Читать дальше →
- We and our parents: inherited conflicts
Is there a blank label or a programmed computer?
In the XVIII century. it was generally accepted that a child is born devoid of all characteristic signs that his intellectual abilities are no different from those of all newly born children. The psyche of the child was called tabula rasa - a bla...Читать дальше →
- And is that free will?
Touch the topic « Free will » actually quite dangerous, especially among educated people and intellectuals. And the author, of course, would never have allowed himself such a thing, if not for family circumstances.
Beloved wife, convinced that she has complete « freedom of choic...Читать дальше →
- Why do psychoanalysts ask patients to lie down?
In all the memories of Leo Landau, it is necessary to note that he worked while lying on the couch. The friends of the great physicist liked to joke that his head outweighed the torso, which is why he lies. And Winston Churchill explained his political longevity by the fact that he never stood if...Читать дальше →
- What motivates people to action (motivation strategies)?
Dear readers, the topic of motivation and incentive to action is interesting and captures the imagination, even lying on the couch.
The easiest way to deal with your motivation strategies. Their set is limited, they are known and studied in NLP, but they are somehow poorly individually acquired. A...Читать дальше →
- Gennady Goncharov: No one can help us, but ourselves.
This is not easy & ndash; to serve in the army. « Hot spots », counterterrorism & hellip; How to protect the nervous system when not only on the battlefield, but in a completely peaceful environment, people in uniform have enough reasons for stress? How to get used to the hardships o...Читать дальше →
- Short-term systemic-family psychotherapy and the phenomenological approach of Bert Hellinger
The man in this world is not alone, as he might imagine, he does not at all look like a desert island in the ocean. Each person is woven into many different relationships. He comes to this world through people whom he calls his parents — dad and mom. Time passes & hellip; A person develops, grow...Читать дальше →
- When should you start school?
At first glance, answering this question is very easy. The age of admission to school is determined by the state — it's six and seven years old.
So when: at six or seven? No one can definitely answer this question. On the one hand, according to the periodization of mental development, deve...Читать дальше →
- Spiritual structure
If the cosmos extends in one direction of space (makhakasha or physical space), then the individual soul continues in another space (chitakasha or subjective space). The resulting difference between the two spaces is the source of the duality of the relationship between the object and the subject, ...Читать дальше →
- Everyone loves me. 100 practical tips on how to achieve love and sympathy
Love, love - you rule the world! The world is sick of love: all the best poems, songs, films are about love. The one who is loved, happy, satisfied - he becomes the center of the universe. Lord, how do you want to be in this very " center "! Why, when taking a trip to the " beauti...Читать дальше →
- Intelligence training
Notice how you look at shapes in the search for the meaning of the image. Most likely, you see completely meaningless contours in them - and this does not lead to anything. But if you focus on the gaps between the contours, the word " TEXT " will begin to appear. To make it more obvious...Читать дальше →
- Mystery of the moment
Time is our usual home. We are born in time, we live in time and disappear in time. Throughout life, we face different ways with time. There are good and bad times. Sometimes we don’t have enough time and we strive to finish something by the appointed date - catch the train, submit an applicatio...Читать дальше →
- Self-education of willpower.
« & hellip; Don't understand what I'm doing; because I’m not doing what I want, but what I hate, I’m doing ».
This epistle of Paul to the Romans is already two thousand years old. If the holy apostle still suffered from a lack of willpower two thousand years ago, then the problem reall...Читать дальше →